Thursday, November 21, 2013

My Rage Issues and Other Reasons Not to Be Like Me or Parent Like Me

Remember all that touchy feely stuff that I wrote about the holidays in the last post? Yeah, don't be so easily swayed by my desire to giftwrap the world.

Earlier this morning I was ready rumble in the dead end of my street.

What's wrong with me? Why?

Because I woke up this morning to the sound of a radio d.j. at 6am, again. Sometimes it's music. It depends on what my seemingly nice neighbor has on her favorite radio station. (She smiles  ... sometimes when we pass by on our little block -- we're city folk and not necessarily the chattiest of neighbors in general.)

I made up a story in my head she is a nurse, because she appears to get home around  6 am fairly regularly. I imagine she's peppy, getting off work after doing some hard good labor for others. She's enjoying her tunes, deafeningly loud in her car on the way home. The problem is, we can hear it through her car. through my closed windows and walls. (she has a great sound system.)

I once saw her roll home like this during the day, with her dogs (poor dogs!) in the car. But it was the day time, and meh. Whatever.

But 6am? Really? You don't think we can't hear you? You are really that self-involved?

And to give her the benefit of the doubt, I say yes. She doesn't know any better, because otherwise I would have to think she's a complete ARSE, whose parents should be called and shamed, STAT. Nurse or no nurse (remember I made this up) she's not very kind and compassionate or caring of others, now, is she?!?)

Also, I am not a morning person.

I opened my windows and leaned my head out to confirm it was her. I did not yell (though I imagine Manfriend was fearful I would) but that would make me no better than her. Then I slammed the window closed. I shouldn't do that either. It would suck to break a window because of my temper issues.

I laid there unable to think of anything else, but how that "young lady" needed a talking to (really I envisioned something a little more aggressive, but hey I'm not condoning my own unladylike thoughts).

Man Friend mentioned perhaps I need to work on my temper in a gentle non condescending way this morning, when I told him, I was disappointed I let stupid things rile me up. I know. I know.

I found out my quiet son has a temper, one that flashes especially for me. His father suspects it has something to do with my temper ... with him.  So when I thought I was being helpful sending my son an email of an online flute/music resource to help him practice. He finished practicing and made and sent me this:

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The apple does not fall far from the tree. We're working on it. It's not you, it's me ... etc.

But hey, I'm glad to see him use that iTouch for something other than video games and Minecraft videos.

12 comments:

  1. We have a neighbour like that - but ours likes to listen to their TV so loud that it comes through our bedroom wall and sounds like its on in our room (we're in a townhouse) - at 2 a.m.
    I however, embraced and channeled my rage by pounding on the walls and yelling them to "turn the f'ng tv down". It got turned down and we haven't had a problem since - I think some people ARE just that self involved - they don't realize how their actions impact others.

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    1. haha! 2am, really? Sheesh Christmas!

      I just worry that if I actually gently confronted someone, they wouldn't care and then I would just be more enraged.

      We live in a 6 unit apartment building, so trust me, I understand your proximity issues and how we are all supposed to be THAT much more considerate. I forgot to mention we do not even live in the same building. She's 2 down ...

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  2. I have a similar situation: my neighbor or neighbor's friend drives a car with the radio set so the bass rumbles and literally shakes the windows of all the houses in the neighborhood and the bass throbs to the music's beat. It is maddening.

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    1. Maddening (love this description, must use more). I could "see" / "hear" this. Yes, it spikes the blood pressure.

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  3. You are not alone my friend. I consider myself a calm person, well a sarcastic calm person, but once I get riled up everyone within a 5 mile radius better watch out. And your son's video was pretty funny, he may have anger issues but he has a sense of humor too. That young girl is being rude, plain and simply rude.
    Hugs,
    Meredith

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    1. I like the description of sarcastic calm person. I think I married one of your people. hehe. I love him dearly, so it's a compliment for sure!

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  4. I'm thinking she is on the Denny's night shift and does not get her music played at work. Have a little chat with her...she is oblivious.

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    1. HAHA! I like your story version too heheh.

      I think if the moment and context work, I might have a chat with her, she must be oblivious. But I have to err on the side of caution. I just thank you all for letting me vent and your kind support :)

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  5. I'm sure you can tell her nicely. Our apt is right by the street so if there are chatty college students going out we can hear them at night or the wee hours of the morning along with the motorcyclist who needs to rev it up while going up the hill and whatever wanna be rice rockets.
    My girls are sassy but no one beats Mama's attitude and dragon lady temper.

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    1. I think it may be some payback for my own inconsiderate youthful actions. I was way more self involved than one should be able to admit! But I'm glad to say, I'm a better person now. Maybe she's a little slow to mature too ...

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  6. my husband's alarm (at 6 am----and we're RETIRED...excuse me???!!) does the same thing to me.

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    1. I laughed SO hard when I read this, and yes! I get it, it's about the unnecessary right?

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